Learning to build resilience; How strong are you?

Do you have peace only when things are running smoothly? Do you behave appropriately when things are not going your way? Do you quit when things become tough? Are you always blaming others for your circumstances and your attitude?

If you can not stand firm and act maturely to follow things through when you experience difficulty you cannot live your best lives. You may have big dreams, be very talented and resourceful but you if you cannot be stable but move with your circumstances you will not get far.

My primary goals are to work on being the best version of myself, so I can be in a position where I can reach my full potential; and also to come to the place where I am at peace with myself, peace with God, peace with others and peace with my circumstances. I realized that learning to be resilient is a necessary tool I need to reach my goal.

We cannot control the things that happens to us in life, but we can work in controlling ourselves to handle those situations maturely so we can still be in the position to do the things we want to do. I have seen people who come across as very strong, yet they fall apart at the least distraction in their lives. I have also seen people who do not come across as strong, but in times of trouble, they stand firm and are not moved and handle problems maturely.

Who is a strong person?

Proverbs 24:10 NLT If you fail under pressure, your strength is too small

The kind of strength referred to, above is not physical strength; the strongest person is not Mr strong with six packs and heavy muscles. The strength referred to, here is the inner strength. The inner strength is what sustains us in times of crises. It is what makes us strong. A strong person is the one who is, mentally, emotionally and spiritually stable in the face of adversity, someone who is not easily moved by things in their surroundings but stands firms and act stably in any circumstance.

Life can be unstable and challenging. One day, you can have it all; happy, work is great, peace at home and the next day it can all turn sour. If we turn to move with things that happen in our lives, then there are very little chances we can get anywhere. Being mentally and emotionally stable and spiritually strong is a necessary tool if we have to be successful in this life.

Being strong and stable is not something that comes naturally. Yes, some people are more enduring and tougher than others. But most people have to work at it. Many people are failing in many areas of their lives because they have not mastered the art of being strong to stand in adversity and still continue to do things they have to do. I worked with two intelligent female Directors in 2 different organisations who lost their job because they allowed their emotions to rule over them. If we do not learn how to develop resilience in our minds and emotions, we can miss out on a great deal in life.

My experience

I am an emotional person by nature. And when things don’t go the way I expected I become very agitated and unsettled until it gets resolved. It took me a while to realise that being agitated was not solving anything but rather holding me back from doing things I wanted to do. I had so many things in my heart that I wanted to do but I realised that my actions were not helping me achieve them. I am on a journey in learning how to be resilient in my mind and emotions because I realise that I cannot release my full potential being that way. It does not matter what is not working in your life, you can work on yourself to improve. No one is perfect excepts God, everyone has something that is not working for them. You don’t have to put up with it for the rest of your lives especially if it’s not allowing you achieve your best. But like everything else you can work on improving yourself so you can reach your full potential.

We cannot control the things that happen to us externally, the work pressure, the bad boss, the failing project, the failed relationships, the rejections, the repossessions but we can work on our response to them, so they don’t impact on our life adversely.

I will be sharing on my next post tools that can help us build inner strength.